I accomplished one of my personal goals this year. This particular goal was to leave a lasting impression on every person I came across. I wanted to inspire, bring increase, and value to as many lives as possible. Why is this important? When you are genuine and good, you attract that back in your life. I truly believe in karma, and you generate tons of good karma helping people. Good karma brings you new opportunities, great relationships, motivation, and abundance.
I went to a networking event tonight, and the room was filled with people I met at various moments through the year. I was almost surprised when every person that recognized me, told me about something I said that they remembered, or had helped them. It felt really good to hear that, especially since that was my intention.
I also want to be clear that there is a difference between first impression and lasting impression. A first impression is what someone thinks the MOMENT they meet you. A lasting impression is what someone thinks LONG AFTER they meet you. A first impression can most definitely be a lasting one, but not in all cases.
I want to 10x this goal next year, but I want you to try it as well. Here is what I learned on how to leave a positive lasting impression when meeting people.
Give a Fuck
I hate to use such language, but I really want to drive this point home. You have to wholeheartedly care about the well being of people. I want people I meet to do well, and not just to sound good. When you care, people can tell. The tone in your voice, look in your eyes, and an overall vibe gives it away. Don’t look around the room at other things constantly, it means you’re not engaged. If you have to leave the conversation, make sure you are genuinely respectful.
When you’re giving a presentation, be detailed. One thing I learned observing internet marketers, they go all out giving away value, just to get an email from me. I use that same energy when giving information to people. Give away the “step-by-steps” and the “over-the-shoulder” style of information. If they actually become successful from trying something you gave them, they’ll never forget you. Be honest, talk about when you failed and how you fixed it. Authenticity leads to authority.
Tell Good Stories
Nothing sticks better than a good story. People come to me all the time with flashbacks of a story I told them. People love exciting war stories from bad investors, embarrassing moments, and random craziness. These stories are told to mostly prove a point, or teach a lesson. Humor is a huge part of my storytelling. I don’t necessarily say its required, but making someone laugh is like icing on the cake.
Martin Luther King Jr. became so memorable, because he preached in parables. Parables are small stories Jesus told in the Bible. They serve as metaphors for a moral or spiritual lesson. I’m not trying to be MLK, but you can’t go wrong studying greatness.
Read Mad Books
You don’t need to know everything, but know enough to have interesting conversations. The best way to do that is to feed your curiosity on different topics through books. I read books ranging from history to psychology. I’m not too big on fiction, but as a geek i’m heavy on Anime and comics. I remember reading a blog from dating expert Tariq Nasheed, where he emphasized every man should have what he called a “mouth piece.” In other words the gift of gab. That goes beyond dating, we need this skill if you want people to remember you in any situation. Be careful though, some people don’t know when to shut up.
Everyone you meet has a challenge they are dealing with. Some people have small challenges, some people have large ones. The more you read, you are able to help solve their problem by recommending a book. My most recommended book this year? Choose Yourself by James Altucher.
Forget About It
This is the most important step of them all. Too many people are looking for “credit” or some form of repayment. The best way to leave a lasting impression is to go hard providing value to people, and then move on. Don’t look for praise, recognition, or hook ups. Just do good.
I don’t know about you, but the things I want in life no man can give me. Life will reward you for the value you give, so don’t worry about any of that.
Every one of these steps consistently worked on helps you develop a great persona.
Some other things that can play a factor are wardrobe, physical attributes, and more. Those things however are more critical for first impressions. Do you have anything you want to add to the list? Feel free to shoot me an email or comment. Wishing you much success on your journey.